CLOSURE

Have you ever had this feeling when you're already broken up with someone and you just think that you need something to put everything to an end? Not only "Hmm okay I don't think we should see each other anymore" or "I really don't think this is working" or the silly "it's not you, it's me", but rather to build a barrier, a big fat barrier, between the two of you which makes it not okay to be in touch with one another.

Judge me however the hell you want, but I believe that all sorts of contact with ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends must be cut clean, especially when the relationship didn't end very well. Most guys do it as easy as clapping hands, they just stop calling and deflect their focus into finding another girl. Girls, on the other hand, would spend months just to get over their ex-boyfriends. We need some time to actually be ready for the next one. Well, most of us do.

I reckon it's mainly because every little thing can bring the blast from the past crawling back to a girl's attention. That's right, every little thing. From the good old hang-out spots to the scent of the car air freshener. As ridiculous as it may sound, it happens all the time. Subsequently, girls go to the next station: the 'I can't stop stuffing my mouth' town.

Even when girls think they're ready, they would put their new dates to their ex-boyfriends side by side. Girls think about their ex-boyfriends' demeanour, and a girl would hope for the new guy to either do it better (if she loves it) or not do it at all (if she hates it); whatever it is the ex-boyfriend used to do. There's only a wee bit of possibility that a girl would compromise, and when one does, she must be trying hard. It's somewhat stupid, but that's what we do. So, boys, when you start dating a girl and she tells you what she hates about her ex-boyfriend, that's your clue to make it right. Girls don't change, so never expect them to. Talking about ex-boyfriends all the time is our smart move to get you to do the changes and adjustments and meet the perfect requirement. So, if you think you can't do it, get out while you can!

I don't know how to say this without making girls seem weak, but the catch phrase "It's been years, get over it!" just doesn't work well for girls.

Oh, if only they sell 'closure' in the local supermarkets, hey?

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ps. keep the love alive!