Gotta Have You (a)
People who fall under this category are those who have a high power of buying and low self-control. Someone with ‘gotta have you’ quality would go by a shop and have their eyes caught by an item or two that could get them to actually go inside and have a closer look, or they might keep walking but definitely pop in later on at lunch break. The low ability of self-controlling would kick in when they’re taking a closer look at the item, try it on, come out of the fitting room and hear the shop assistant saying “ah, that looks fantastic on you!” no matter how they look. The next thing you know, they are signing the receipt at the counter. In relationships, there are always some people with the ‘gotta have you’ attitudes. They do possess certain qualities, such as attractiveness, which often make them feel that they have more privileges in the hook up department. ‘Gotta have you’ people are likely to be easily involved with someone without a long and careful consideration, just like buying a piece of clothing without even bother to check if there’s mis-stitching or stain. They tend not to care too much about matters other than “it makes me happy”, and the concept of “I love it, it’s really cute, even though it’s a bit pricey and I still don’t know when and where I’m gonna wear it” is tagging along.
Everybody Else Is Doing It, So Why Can’t We? (b)
In shopping, there are always people who buy what they see in magazines. Once every two weeks the magazine arrives in the mailbox with a couple of fashion pages showing the freshest and trendiest looks. They follow whatever it is they perceive as ‘the thing’. The possible reasons of doing so would vary from the desire to show off to the world to the effort to escape from the confusion by ‘referring to the book’. With regards to relationships, we more often than not see people with ‘everybody else is doing it, so why can’t we?’ spirit who have quite a lot to sacrifice in order to keep up with the game. This, I reckon, includes them who would get together with somebody only with the purpose of establishing a status as well as those who would rather stay in an unfriendly relationship due to being terrified of loneliness because all their friends are paired off. Imagine how painful it is to squeeze your feet into a size 6 pair of shoes when you’re a size 8.5, just so you can wear the kind that’s considered fashionable. Suddenly you wake up when the weeks have passed, the styles keep changing but your feet still feel and look like shit.
Sweet Seduction
When shopping, a number of people would certainly fall for a sign saying ‘buy one get one free’ or ‘get 50% off the second item’ or ‘spend $200 and get a beauty set’. The funny thing is, often when they get home from shopping they realise they don’t even need or want that particular item. Neither do they want to spend that much money, but then again, since it was on sale or had some extra goodies on the side, the voices in their heads went “why not?”. ‘Sweet seduction’ in terms of relationship would fall under those situations when we start to get a little closer with someone and are about to make a big turn at the T-junction to where the relationship is going. This is where the cards have to be played right. Shall we turn left where the road is smooth by just become friends (or in some cases, acquaintances) and lose the opportunity to the ‘special offers’? Or do we make a right and go along the bumpy road while there’s a little game called ‘find and pick up the goodies’? It’s like how The Stills(c) used to put it “logic will break your heart”. If you have to make a decision with your head, don’t turn to your heart because the sweet seduction won’t allow it.
At Least
People don’t have to be cheap or stingy to buy something at a lower price with lower quality. It’s just a financial decision they have to make, or say the item may not be so important to spend much money on. A shoe rack, for instance. You can go to a home department in a shopping centre and buy an expensive solid rack, or to IKEA and get one at a standard price or to a bargain shop where you can get one with a fairly good quality and pay much less. As simple as it sounds, ‘at least’-spirited person would most probably go to the bargain shop. The rack might not be fancy, but at least it could still store all my shoes and don’t fall apart. Likewise, certain people tend to have the ‘at least’ attitude in deciding whether or not to get involved with somebody. Instead of looking for a perfect kind (who may not exist, by the way), they would go for the next best thing, like “well, this bloke isn’t even cute, but at least he’s got a job” or “this guy isn’t even smart, but at least he’s trustworthy”. If you can get the ‘at least’, why pay more?
Great Thinkers
The ‘great thinkers’ are those who always think carefully before making a decision of buying something by putting some aspects such as usefulness, price and place into consideration. They wouldn’t bother to purchase something they think isn’t really worth buying. However, sometimes some of them take too much time to think, and when they finally realise they want it, someone else has beaten them. This could probably explain why the ‘great thinkers’ are hard to get into relationships. Is it wrong to think thoroughly before making a big decision, or is it just so unethical to expect someone to wait for our decision although it may take quite some time? Are we missing the fun part of a relationship by being critical? Whilst some people think it’s ridiculous, I think the ‘great thinkers’ would beg to differ. To them it’s better to come back to the shop the next day or even the week after after making a final decision rather than rushing to buy something that you’ll regret at the end.
[Okay, just so you know, I'm writing this only for the sake of fun. It, for one, doesn't mean I'm an expert in shopping or relationship because believe me, I'm not. It also doesn't mean that someone with certain attitude in shopping will necessarily fall under the same category in terms of relationship. In other word, you may or may not agree with me; it's good of you do, but if you don't, you know your way out.]
a. Gotta Have You is a soundtrack of the film Jungle Fever by Stevie Wonder back in 1991
b. Everybody Else Is Doing It, So Why Can’t We? is The Cranberries’ debut album released in 1993
c. The Stills is a Canadian indie rock band, and Logic Will Break Your Heart is their debut album in 2003
